Saturday, October 30, 2010

Argument


"I told you, right? Why should I repeat the same thing over and over and over again???"
I smiled, that's how I love this person.
Every arguments, every madness, every words said are true.
I sometimes don't understand a word, it's called selective attention. Not that I don't want to listen, I was just getting more and more into you.
Drenched deeply into your words, just too excited looking into your eyes.
I'm sorry, not that I'm not listening.
Just that, I Love You so much.

Argument means a lot to us. Means a lot to any couple, to those who are in love, your family, as well as to all the people around you.
This is just a my half-note of what you call an argument.
Long distance, short distance don't matter. What matters is handling your commitment.
The moment you argue, it means you progress. The moment you have something to fight about, that means the wall in your relationship is about to fall in no time.
Argument owns different definitions if you look at it from different perspectives.
But in my eyes, in the eyes of understanding, it is that when you are disagreeing with another person, you teach yourself to be somebody who understands.
Arguments will never fade in a relationship, as it is an element which assures you a force of a hammer that keeps your relationship stays to the best.

Let's talk about it through a long distance relationship perspective.
Arguments are like foods you eat everyday. Why? Because your partner's a "noob".
Nah, kidding bah... Arguments in a long distance relationship are just a bittersweet memory.
Don't worry!
It'll heal in no time. Talk about it! Don't hang up the phone, don't end the call on Skype!
Stand with it! Believe me, that's how you are supposed to do it.
The more you argue, the more assurance of the relationship you will get.
You have to realize. Once you commit to this guy or this girl you really like, that is the time you commit to the situation you will face afterward.
Don't blame the distance, you should be thankful because God has created the gap for you and your partner to learn how to be more tolerable.
It's the sign God has given for us to acquire the skills we need to have to face our future together with our loved one.
Remember, talk about it! Talk even it hurts.
If you are wrong, apologize and don't hurt your loved one anymore.
It's not easy, I know. It takes time to change and adapt with everything, make them understand that you need time. You are not a robot, remember that. But don't blame them as well, be relevant to the term reciprocity. You're going to face really hard moments for a period of time.
But believe me, that's what make you and the bond stronger.

For those who are in love and meet constantly. I don't know why you should argue about not having much time to meet up. Either you're a moron, or one mere obsessive freak! Think about those who are in a higher risk of breaking up like those who are in a long distance relationship. I am not saying you can't argue about things, but be more reasonable. In a family, for instance, be reasonable.
Everything is correlated, whether long distance or short distance. It's all the same.
Be a matured thinker. Think about other people's feelings. Don't be selfish.

In a relationship, there are ups and downs. You can choose to argue about how hard it is to accept the reality, or just argue about how the other person feelings. Either way, be considerate. Ask yourself why do you still want this person, despite knowing the challenges waiting in front of the both of you. It is better to argue about the things that could help resolving the puzzle and eventually make you guys up in the future, instead of arguing about the things that you have already predicted.

You may argue, but remember,
the term has a different meaning than both conversation and a discussion.

5 comments:

  1. i love this!! now i have to deal our biggest problem. not about the distance.. this long distance make us love each other more and more.

    a big obstacle in front of us. we can't avoid from it. but we will face it together. gosh. so in love with him.

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  2. All the best for your relationship dydue..
    I know you can do it! Invite me la kalau you guys are about to tie the knot sudah ah... :P~

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  3. Keep up the good job, Eyan!
    Jemput kalau ada makan nasi minyak :)

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  4. those words, ' are about to tie the knot ' ..
    i hope we will... T^T

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